This post, with poll, is about fisting as a sexual practice. Fisting, sometimes called fist fucking or handballing, involves the insertion of a hand into a woman's vagina or into a person's rectum. Fisting, whether vaginal or anal fisting, involves at least a fister, the fist-fucker, and a fistee, the fist-fucked.
Double fisting is when two hands are inserted into a woman's vagina or someone's rectum, or when one hand is inserted into a woman's vagina and another into her rectum at the same time.
Fisting is often associated with gay sex, but fisting is also common amongst lesbians and heterosexuals.
There have been and still are, but dwindling in number, dedicated fisting clubs mainly catering for gay men and lesbian women. Perhaps the most famous fisting club was the now defunct Catacombs based in San Francisco between 1975 and 1984.
La Fistinière, a French gay guest house and sex club about 100 miles south of Paris which operated from 2007 to 2018, was "completely dedicated to the practice of fist-fucking and hard sexuality". Its owners, the husbands François Mallet and Juan Carlos Garcia Berrio, owned a cat called Fistouille meaning 'my beloved fist fuck'. (I'm not able to verify that translation on Google Translate, I'll just have to rely on Wikipedia!)
There was also the Bijou Theater in Chicago, which regularly produced and showed many gay sex films including the classic 1980 film Erotic Hands about deep fisting.
The celebrated American photographer Robert Mapplethorpe, who once lived with Patti Smith and whom supported him for a while, took a few infamous fist fucking photographs.
On Frankie Goes to Hollywood's debut 1984 album, Welcome to the Pleasuredome, there's a song titled Krisco Kisses about fisting. Crisco is an American brand of shortening that was widely used as a lubricant for gay anal fisting before more specialised lubricants were launched.
The American author, Deborah Addington, wrote the book A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting, published in 1997, which reached number four in Amazon's 'Hot 100' book sales chart in February 2000.
Here in Britain, fisting, whether vaginal or anal, is a legal sexual practice provided that those involved are consenting. But until 2019, prosecuting authorities would often prosecute those who published fisting material or images under the Obscene Publications Act 1959 prohibiting obscenity whatever that means and/or the Criminal Justice and Immigration Act 2008 prohibiting "extreme pornography" - it's not just in America that crime and immigration get bundled together!
There was a case involving the University of Central England, based in Birmingham. In 1998, the police confiscated a university library book by Robert Mapplethorpe from a student because the book contained two anal fisting photographs. There was a stand-off between the university and the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS). The latter only agreeing to return the book if the university agreed to the removal of these photographs. Thankfully the University of Central England held its ground on the grounds of academic freedom, and the book, with the two photographs intact, was eventually returned to the university's library and with official notification from the CPS that no legal action would be taken against the university. After this and a couple of other subsequent cases, the CPS announced in 2019 that it would no longer prosecute pornography produced by consenting adults engaging in legal sexual acts. (Sir Keir Starmer, Britain's Prime Minister, was the Director of Public Prosecutions, the head of the CPS, from 2008 to 2013.)
Have you engaged in the sexual practice of fisting? If so, was it vaginal and/or anal fisting? And if so, were you the fister and/or the fistee?
And again if so, did you enjoy your fisting experience/s?
I've not engaged in fisting. But I've come close, in fact only a thumb away. One girlfriend, GIRLFRIEND 21, seemed to particular like being fingered by me, or probably being fingered by a man. She would often coax me to insert an extra finger into her pussy, at the time I was a one-fingered and at most a two-fingered man. With her coaxing, I got to three and four fingers and she still asked for more. I was thinking that's going to be my whole hand and even a fist and I stopped short because I thought I may hurt her. I now wish I hadn't stopped short!
Below is a poll where you can anonymously indicate your experiences of fisting as a sexual practice. Multiple selections are allowed for the poll.
This post follows on from my FANCY A FACIAL?, FANCY A CHOKE?, FANCY A RIM?, FANCY A SPIT-ROAST?, FANCY A SPANK?, FANCY A WAX?, FANCY A ROLE?, FANCY A GOLDEN SHOWER?, FANCY A TITFUCK?, FANCY A PEEP?, FANCY A SQUIRT?, FANCY A BLINDFOLD?, FANCY A GROUP?, FANCY A TRIBUTE?, FANCY A TEABAG?, FANCY A PEG?, FANCY A MACHINE?, FANCY A GLORY HOLE?, FANCY A PERIOD?, FANCY A BOTTOM?, FANCY A SNACK?, FANCY A SNOWBALL?, FANCY A TORTURE?, FANCY A ROPE?, FANCY A PLUG? and FANCY A SWING? blog posts in a series about various sexual acts. Below, as the first comment, is a summary of the results of a poll contained in my last blog post on sex swings - see FANCY A SWING?.
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I love it!
That's good.
I've been told I'm pretty tight, so NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
It's a no for me too!
I am too, luckily she only had little hands!
I have tried it with three partners and enjoyed it immensely. the feeling of being that filled was very very intense. it takes patience. i chose the partners that i did try that with based literally on their hand size. its not for the faint of heart. you must breathe and let him and the lube work for you. if you hold your breath it won't work. the first time was very very intense as he worked his hand into me. i am built very tight so we had to work past that but once he got his hand in, i literally thought i would explode. you can't remove your hand very fast so he had to not move it while i rode that wave of intense pressure and the pulses....once that finished, he was careful on withdrawing. i do have a picture of it on my blog buried a few posts deep. i havent found a partner in years whose hands could do that. lube is your very best friend
Thanks for telling us your experiences with recommendations.
Sounds like one needs a very patient lover, or at least partner, to make it work. The fact I have hands on the large side would not make me a good candidate though I can be patient.
Cowboy can get 3 fingers in. 4 is too many. A fist ain't gonna fit, LOL.
At least you know your finger-limit.
I have been with a couple of women who could not get enough. They absolutely loved the full feeling of fisting (alliteration intended). In the end, I find pleasing a woman highly erotic. If she wants one or gentle fingers or a rough fisting, both are perfect in my book.
As mentioned, my only close experience was with one woman.
Male here, I've fisted many women, vaginally and anally, I never met a woman who didn't love it, when introduced properly. And, I've happy been on the receiving end of a lot of anal fisting. Worked up from single to double. There was nothing like it. I would love to do it and recieive it again.
Thank you for stopping by to recount your experiences. Much appreciated.
Some years ago I wandered into a male gay sex shop in Berlin, and got quite a surprise when confronted by some very large dildos for sale. I can imagine anyone into those dildos would not have an issue with a hand, or an arm, maybe even a foot, inserted into their orifice.
So for me, the question is, what makes a hand different from a dildo? It's not the size as there are some humongous dildos out there, if one is into that.
I can "trust" the dildo to behave, if that makes any sense - the shape and dimension is what it is and cannot open, twist, or morph.For that reason I have no interest in being 'handed' or 'fisted.' Maybe for others, that risk or sense of danger is exactly what makes it exciting to them.
And yes, I own a dildo that is too big to insert. I have tried, but dropped out each time it meant I had to give it a slow go until it was managable, like with a fisting session. It just isn't the kind of sensation that I am into.
As you say, some dildos are like inanimate fists!
The idea of Fisting not only doesn't turn me on it makes me feel like it is icky. Then again a can not stand liver and onions but some people think it tastes wonderful. So, I have to say I have never done it nor care to.
I like your comparison between fisting and liver and onions.
Hmmm... Nope, nope, and nope! 😄 Definitely not my thing at all!
I don't know why but I'm a little surprised.
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Those two entry doors are a bit 'narrow' in my case, and although a few guys have suggested it, I haven’t accepted... But honestly, given my résumé, I’m not surprised you’re surprised
@AuraAviatik6 I wouldn't want to be fisted either!
@spunkycumfun @auraaviatik6 I'm surprised by you both being surprised!
@TangledWeb54 Surprises are often good.
I’m extremely tight! Nooooo way. No day.
I can well understand your position. Thanks for stopping by.
I have had a BBW fist me, and loved it. I have been pegged and loved that as well.
I like being pegged but I don't want to be fisted.
If a Woman i am with wants to be fisted id do my best to please Her, but it's not something I often think about doing.
I think your position is my position though I did didn't fist a woman when she was giving me the green light.
Why would I want to stretch out her vagina? Part of what makes intercouse so incredible is that "gripping" sensation.
It just seems counter intuitive from my vantage point. If my partner really wanted to try, I would remind her, I can palm a basketball.
I don't understand the charms of fisting either. Thanks for stopping by.
Beside eating and fucking,I love Woman that like being fisted
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Nope. No thank you. Not interested. At all. Guess we found where the line is. Well...one of the lines
Fisting, whether giving or receiving, doesn't appeal to me either. It's always good to know our limits.
I've been vaginally fisted. My late husband was into it, (I don't know whether it was a "thing" for him personally, or he just got off on the trust and effort on my side of allowing him to attempt it, although never did achieve full "fist" because his hands were on the large side. It's very erotic, takes a lot of time, lube, and being attuned to each others feelings. And trust. We only attempted 3 or 4 times. Couple of years later I was a kink group weekend at a swingers campground, and long story short of it, convinced a close female friend with extremely small hands to fist me. She was young, inexperienced in the kink and swinging lifestyle, actually went to camp intending to earn her kink" badges" on this trip........ We did it in a room in the playspace, not an impromptu type thing for sure, I had teased her all day about attempting it that night. So we had an audience. ANd it ruined it, for both of us. THe intimacy and trust and communication were there until she achieved full penetration with her fist, then some random stranger yelled out "NOW FIST FUCK HER!" She panicked and quickly pulled her hand out and ran to bathroom, with me following her for damage control. But I did enjoy it, until I didn't. Never have attempted again with anyone. I think I would have, had someone come along and expressed an interest, but my current (and most definitely permanent) partner has none, so it's just a memory ( and a very vivid one, aren't those the best when you reach a certain age?) and thanks for prompting that memory for me.
That random stranger was an idiot. Thanks for recounting your experiences.
*I have always love to stretch my girlfiends holes from the age of 13, i love looser wet sloppy pussy n making woman squirt. About 10 years ago my girl stated stripping when she was 30 years old. She was the firt woman that i got my fist in n more and she would beg for it and tell me shove ur fist in now n fuck me n i did n i would shove my hard cock in her. I asked her to wear stocking for me she said no they were for work only. WTF so when i was home alone i started wearing her stockings after getting reakky spun n i would picture myself being her n dressing slutty nstipping in the vip room deep throating and rideing cocks or getting fucked doggy. Over the next years i started really stretching my hole and going deeper n deeper in my ass with toys n objects. I still have not taking anyone real fist or cock in my ass. I dress almost nightly in the privatcy of my bed n bathroom and i have pushed my limits and taken a 1 inch x 32 inch dildo all the way and even adding 2 2'' x 12'' dildos in me with the 36 inch long one..I really would love to take a arm / foot . 3 huge trany cocks in my ass at the same time , have a fist n cock in me.. I am on the quiet side til i know u. i only want to play with ddf and freshly cleaned holes. I host near ASU west or i can meet u . I have most every thing u could want making it worth ur wild to get at me telll me dirty needs n get our cocks in shirts n touching, I am not into men so u must dress. i love everything about all woman, but also crave all cocks n cum ..
so whos is gonna fist me first n fuck me filling me with ur sead the make me suck ur cock clean???
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It feels so though you could move a persons internal organs around it's just the thought and everything associated with it is just gross
I wouldn't want to move anyone's internal organs around!
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Love doing a lady this way
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Fucked a women one night with a fist in her pussy jacked me off in her she went wild.
That sounds like a great fisting experience you had.
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I hope you get to try fisting.
Another great question that I would have to respectfully pass on. I hope your enjoying a wonderful weekend..
Fisting isn't for me either.
Hard pass for me, too - either way.
There's quite a few here not into fisting.
@spunkycumfun Understandable, I think. Personal anecdote, several years ago a smaller female doctor could not insert a single finger for a prostrate exam. A fist?
@RUmytranny No doctor has ever tried to put a finger up my bottom!
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I've never been able to go further than my knuckles, my hands are a bit large, not Jumbo.
The few times my partners eyes were glued to my hand, my eyes glued to theirs.
Still it was well received on their end.
I enjoyed it as I like finding edges.
So I voted that I have, but does up to the knuckles count, four fingers only? 🤔
I think four fingers up to the knuckles count.
The closest I’ve come to fisting was seeing a demo of it at a kink group that used to host educational labs. I went with a friend and she had to leave the room because she felt nauseous. 🤪 I don’t foresee ever receiving, given my current issues being penetrated with much smaller objects.
This poll is one of those where men generally aren't into things as much as women, give or take.
@spunkycumfun I don't think you have a lot to go on for that conclusion. Yes, a couple of women in the comments said they liked it and a grand total of two (so far) in the poll said they have experienced and liked it (as composed to 11 people who said they've been the fister and liked it - of course! haha). I would guess that a great many more women would say they have no interest whatsoever..
@smartasswoman I haven't got a lot to go on from the poll. But men have made comments how they're somewhat reluctant to fist a woman. So my tentative observation was qualitative than quantitative but because, poll numbers are low, my observation wouldn't stand up in a statistical court of law.
@spunkycumfun I'm not so sure about that. I think there are a LOT of men who are interested in having a woman fist them. They just don't make themselves known for that as commonly, perhaps. The man who wanted me to fist him was totally, totally into it. He wanted me to press onward and onward...Slowly. It was sexy that he was so into what I was doing. I mean, it really turns me on to see my partner really getting off on what I was doing, even though I was concerned I was going to hurt him. He kept saying, "I don't care. Don't stop. Don't stop!"He was pressing back against my gloved and lubed hand. It was super hot.
@Paredes_D_Seda I can't be sure of course. Your experience is most interesting. I think quite a lot of men here are quite unsure of themselves when it comes to sexuality and sex.